Connecting with other people is vital for improving your social status, maintaining your relationships, and building a vivid and robust family. Therefore, communication is the most crucial asset in our society.
There’s somebody out there who has something you want to learn, achieve, master or reach. To get to it, you have to use your skills to connect with that person.
If you can communicate effectively, you can get to live a rewarding life. That’s because getting what you want can have massive benefits over all aspects of your life.
To become a better communicator and to make your language sound richer, here are some things you can do.
Show, Not Tell
“A good speech should be like a woman’s skirt: long enough to cover the subject and short enough to create interest.” Winston Churchill
Speaking is like tweeting. If you can’t impress anybody, nobody will listen to you.
Sometimes, avoiding simple statements that don’t add any description can be a lifesaver. It might take a lot of practice, but it’s worth trying.
If you want to speak as if you show something and not tell something, you can make your language sound richer like this:
- Instead of “The man was stressed.” you can say, “The man was fidgeting and biting his nails.”
- Instead of “My husband was confident.” you can say, “My husband was surefooted on his abilities, and that’s why he started his own company at the age of 27.”.
- Instead of “The store was full.” you can say “There was no room left in the store, as it was packed and crowded.
- Instead of “It was windy.” you can say, “The umbrella was bent out of shape.”
Ask Open-Ended Questions
“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.” Eugene Ionesco
No matter what situation you are in, if you want to make the other person feel more at ease, allow them to talk about what they like to do. You can do this by asking open-ended questions.
These cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”. Usually, these questions start with “who”, “what”, “when”, “where” and “why”.
Here are some examples:
- Instead of “Did you like that book?” you can ask, “What did you think of that book?”.
- Instead of “Did you eat?” you can ask, “What did you have for dinner?”
- Instead of “Do you like photography?” you can ask, “How did you make photography your favourite passion?”
- Instead of “Do you believe everything that is said in the news?” you can ask, “Where do you think we will end up watching the news every day?”
- Instead of “Are you afraid to show people who you really are?” you can ask, “When was the last time that your courage has got you into trouble?”.
Improve Your Vocabulary
“Words play an enormous part in our lives and are therefore deserving of the closest study.” Aldous Huxley
People use the same words too many times. This happens to everybody.
Have you ever wonder why?
Life is too short to engage in boring conversations. If you want to be more precise in your speech, learning new words will help you capture the attention of those around you more easily.
Not only that, but some words will also make you look more interesting and sometimes more confident.
Below you can find some examples.
- Instead of “nice”, you can use “handsome”, “enjoyable”, “stylish”, “breathtaking”, “good-looking”.
- Instead of “beautiful”, you can use “ravishing”, “elegant”, “gorgeous”, “attractive”, “effervescent”.
- Instead of “sorry”, you can use “contrite”.
- Instead of “beginner”, you can use “tyro” or “novice”.
- Instead of “very strong”, you can use “pungent”.
- Instead of “confused”, you can use “bemused”.
- Instead of “false”, you can use “fallacy”.
- Instead of “likely to be true”, you can use “plausibly”.
- Instead of “strong” or “powerful”, you can use “puissant” or “potent”.
Make People Feel Comfortable Around You
“If you want to feel more comfortable and happy, work on making the people around you more comfortable and happy.” Kathy Freston
The number one trait of the best communicators is that they know how to make the person in front of them feel comfortable in their skin.
People enjoy being around others who can recognize and are not threatened by other people’s abilities or talents. When you also add some humour, you can make it easier for the others to open up.
We all have fears, either smaller or greater. One of the biggest is the fear of being judged by others. Maybe this is also why there are so many introverts out there.
Showing empathy is another way you can make more friends in the end. There is no better time to show empathy than when the person you are talking to reveals a particular problem they are facing.
Many times, people don’t expect you to solve their problems. Most of them just want to talk to someone who can understand and listen to them. By showing them that you can be that person, you can make a closer connection with them.
Use Silence to Say More
“He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.” Elbert Hubbard
In some cases, silence can be unbearable. Especially when it comes to that awkward silence. But silence can also be an excellent way to accentuate some points of view.
Nonverbal communication represents more than 50% of everyday communication. And silence plays a massive role in nonverbal communication. Therefore, you can say a lot by saying nothing.
The pauses in your speech can also give the others person you’re talking to the chance to intervene and express his opinion.
Communication is the basis of all human relations. By becoming a better communicator, you can improve your relationships with others.
Whether we talk about online or offline communication, you will not get very far in life without knowing how to express yourself coherently and clearly.
This is why improving your communication skills can make you more confident and a better person in general.